As these appointments wore on, it began to irk me that my dreams of telling all the stories of LL’s pregnancy to LL were drying up in front of me. We did not have or were unlikely to ever have the treasure chest of stories that we could mention as they came up, the way that most other parents could. I worried about whether not being able to participate in these appointments or really interact with G and her family during the process would affect our ability to connect and bond with LL Cool T after birth. If I hadn’t carried and neither of us had had the chance to develop a true relationship, friendship with G, would this child look at us and know we were their parents or would we get looks of confusion and uncertainty?